make tshark output ignore irrelevant fields

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You can also try directly specifying the columns you want instead of using -T fields and -e field1 ... -e fieldN. For example:

Windows:

tshark.exe -r file.pcap -Y "tcp or udp" -o "gui.column.format:\"IP Protocol\",\"%Cus:ip.proto\",\"Source Port\",\"%S\",\"Destination Port\",\"%D\""

*Nix:

tshark -r file.pcap -Y "tcp or udp" -o 'gui.column.format:"IP Protocol","%Cus:ip.proto","Source Port","%S","Destination Port","%D"'

NOTE: You can use %rS for resolved source ports, %uS for unresolved source ports, %rD for resolved destination ports, or %uD for unresolved destination ports.

For more help with specifying columns, run tshark -G column-formats.

output similar to what wireshark does

Do you mean Src port (unresolved) and Dest port (unresolved) columns?

If so, you can print columns with tshark:

Column names may be used prefixed with "_ws.col."

The column names are not intuitive but can be found in epan/column.c:

    { COL_UNRES_DST_PORT, "Dest port (unresolved)" },
...
    { COL_UNRES_SRC_PORT, "Src port (unresolved)" },

The columns will need to exist in the profile you are using with tshark.
You could add them to a new profile and tell tshark use it with the -C option:

-C <configuration profile=""> Run with the given configuration profile.

~$ tshark -r tcptst.pcap -T fields -e tcp.srcport -e _ws.col.unres_src_port -e _ws.col.unres_dst_port
443     443     18082
443     443     18082
443     443     18082